novelraw Chapter 898: Never make excuses (two more)
Chapter 898: Never make excuses (two more)
Chapter 898 Never make excuses (two more)
There are two situations for mothers who particularly like newborn babies. One is that the family members help take care of the child and share the mother’s fatigue, so that the mother can enjoy the joy of parenting faster, and the other is that it unconsciously shows it to others. , I also showed myself a "pretend", but this pretend is actually not a bad thing for the mother herself.
Most women will use "pretend" love to hypnotize themselves. When people around them feel that mothers love their children, they hypnotize themselves in this way, gradually accepting their motherhood, and fall in love with their babies faster.
also does not rule out some people like Zhuzisao, life is too difficult and too tired, hypnosis is not good.
Just ask such a tiring and tormenting baby, if it weren’t for self-abuse, who would fall in love with children all of a sudden?
As if responding to Xiaoqian’s statement, I don’t know which neighbor’s house, the cry of a hoarse baby was heard. It still has super penetrating power in a well-insulated community, and it clearly reaches Xiaoqian and the pillar. Sister-in-law’s ears.
"Look, it takes time for this crying and making noise baby to adapt to her existence all at once. You must have worked very hard at the beginning?" Xiaoqian's seemingly random sentence was deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.
"Yeah, but I'm exhausted. Before I gave birth, I was 120 kilograms. I lost 20 kilograms of meat during the year with the baby. Then she got a little older and I got back. For a while I wanted to , It’s just a good night's sleep."
"I understand your feelings." Xiaoqian also thought of the days when she brought Xiaowei in her previous life.
She had no family at that time and her life was very difficult. She brought a little baby and almost never got postpartum depression. Later, when the baby got a little older, she would call her mother sweetly. She became more caring, and Xiaoqian's love for her daughter became more and more intimate. She was so deep that she gave up the whole world for her.
The outside world will only use stereotyped thinking to restrain women, just like pillars, thinking that women should like children by nature, and dislike is problematic. This kind of idea is hedging, and it is easy to be depressed.
So many mothers will get postpartum depression.
The correct way to deal with it is to share the mother’s fatigue. The family has played a role in sharing. The mother feels the joy of parenting and being loved. It is the first time that the baby calls the mother, watch her toddler, watch her a little bit of growth. Great, that kind of satisfaction will prevail over everything, and maternal love will gradually become better, but everyone's actual situation is different.
Sister-in-law Zhuzi’s situation is not unusual at all, it is too common.
The most rare thing is to understand. Zhuzi’s sister-in-law was touched when she heard someone understand herself. At a moment when she herself felt that she was not a good woman, someone could understand her and analyze the problem objectively. It was really healing. It's so heartwarming.
"Nami Wei, what should I do?"
"Your family has more problems, I will sort out a little bit for you. The first is to solve the negative influence of your childhood father’s love on your current emotions. After this is resolved, you will have less barriers to your baby, but more The important thing is that your husband should be involved in childcare, which is good for you and your children."
"He...it's useless. He doesn't want to take care of children. He said he is a man. It's all women's work."
"Don’t worry about this, I have a way to deal with it, but during this period of time, you’d better be cautious about the plan to have a second child, but I can tell you responsibly that your family’s current situation requires a second child. It can only exhaust you and make your eldest daughter’s problem worse."
Still the same sentence, giving birth to a child can't hold a man's heart.
"But if I don't give birth, he will be clamoring for a divorce, really going to divorce, what about my eldest daughter?"
"Then you have a second child to give birth to a daughter, and he still has to divorce. What should your eldest daughter and your second daughter do? The problem has not been solved. If you give birth to a few, if you don’t solve the problem, it will only increase your troubles. Now you have to solve it first. It is your emotional depression. I will help you adjust it to make you fall in love with your child faster. For your child, you will find that you have unlimited ability to destroy everything that you think is blocking you, including your husband."
The female is weak, and the mother is strong, provided that the mother accepts the role change.
After doing a simple easing of emotions, Xiaoqian began formal treatment. Zhu Zisao was over-stressed and she was already depressed. Coupled with the lack of childhood emotions, she was emotionally unstable and repeated back and forth.
Xiaoqian used the "acceptance and commitment" therapy for her, and used a series of professional technical methods to let Zhuzisao eliminate her current psychological rigidity and treat her lack of paternal love when she was a child flexibly.
This process took more than an hour.
After finishing the treatment, Zhu Zisao's mood was obviously better. She unexpectedly found that she missed her daughter a little and wanted to call her daughter.
When Xiaoqiang came back, Zhuzi and his wife had already left, and Xiaoqian watched the moon by the window frame alone.
"Are you done?" He held her waist from behind.
"Well, where did you lead Uncle Liao?"
"Go to Dad to play chess."
"Who's winning?"
"Uncle Liao wins a lot-it is actually not easy to lose to Dad, hahaha!"
Thinking of his old man's green iron hatred face, Xiaoqiang really missed it.
"Let me tell you, after losing a few games, my dad stared at me while playing chess, it seemed to say, how did you bring him over, haha, I pretended not to see!"
Yu's father's wish to be a chess master seems to be a bit difficult for the time being.
"I guess my dad's inner feeling at that moment must be: How could I give birth to such a scumbag?" Xiaoqian mimicked his father's voice vividly, and Xiaoqiang laughed.
"There is no way to regret it, whoever makes him a stinky flag and likes playing chess so much."
The Ye Cry Lang Xiaowa from the neighbor’s house started crying again, crying hoarsely.
Xiaoqian listened to this cry, thinking of the topic of today's treatment, and couldn't help asking.
"You and Xiao Xi are twins, what should you do when you cry when you are young?"
Bringing a child can be exhausting, let alone two.
"It is said that I could cry when I was a child. I woke up in the middle of the night and raised the cover of the house with howling. Now I think it is calcium deficiency. The living conditions were just like that at that time. Xiao Xi was the opposite , When I cried, she would have to breastfeed me. The mother fed her and had to find my dad to hug me to another room. Sometimes my dad was not at home, just the eldest brother or the second elder brother hugged me."
So the eldest and second child who are old at home are very precocious.
Xiaoqiang also listened to his mother, saying that when he was a child, he liked his dad so much that he had to hold him every time he cried, and he gave Yu his father's shoulder a blue and purple bit when he got his teeth.
Even so, Yu's father never lost his temper, so he happily asked him to chew.
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(End of this chapter)