novelraw Chapter 896: It's really a leak in the house that rains all night long
Chapter 896: It's really a leak in the house that rains all night long
Chapter 896 It's really a leak in the house that rains in the night (thanks to Kateliu for the silver reward +51 more)
Zhuzi’s daughter-in-law came in, she seemed to have cried, her eyes were a little red.
She was chatting with Xiaoqian’s mother outside. She didn’t know what she had talked about, but she was sad.
"Sister-in-law sit down." Xiaoqian's tone towards her was obviously milder than that of Zhuzi.
She can see that this sister-in-law is really her fan.
She can also see that this sister-in-law has really reached a point of collapse in her life at this moment. If she is not desperate, how can she show such help-seeking eyes to a stranger? Sometimes inadvertent indifference may make life unlovable. People who have lost their last hope of survival, a small aid may also help a desperate person regain hope.
"Xiao Qian, shouldn't I tell you this, after all, you are Zhu Zi's relative, I..." This is also the reason Zhu Zi's wife feels desperate outside.
She really has no one to talk to, knowing that Xiaoqian might not help her, but she can’t control her desire to talk.
"There are no relatives for the doctor. When you come to me, sitting opposite me is my counselor. If you don’t want to call me Xiaoqian or Meiwei, you can use this as an emotional talk call on the radio. Don't think about who I am, just tell me if you have anything."
"Hey, I actually don't know where to start..."
"You already have a child, don't you?"
"Yes, my daughter's name is Xiaoli. She is an introverted child. She is born different from other children." When she mentioned her daughter, Zhu Zisao took out her wallet from her pocket and showed her wallet to Xiao Qian.
is a very thin little girl, looking at the camera shyly.
"Excuse me for asking, her hand—"
When I mentioned this topic, Zhu Zi’s eyes were red, and her tears were about to come down again.
"When a child is born, there are six fingers on his right hand. The more he grows up, the more introverted. Especially after going to kindergarten, other children are wondering why her hands are different from others. She cried and said that she didn't want to go to school. I haven't learned everything yet, but I'm already inferior."
Maybe for other children, asking Xiaoli’s finger is not necessarily discriminatory or what, it’s just a child’s natural curiosity, but everyone is paying attention, the child’s psychology will definitely change, there will be inferiority complex, and gradually the child It's getting more and more introverted.
"I heard the pillar say, don't you hug her if the child cries?"
"I have also worried a lot about the child. I checked a lot of foreign parenting books. I think it says that if you want your child to be independent, don't hug her. She is already six fingers. What if you don't become self-improvement?"
"She is three years old, is she one year old or imaginary?"
"At the virtual age, we also searched for several kindergartens to find a private kindergarten for such a small child. Her father had a big opinion of me. The small class cost 200 yuan a month. He felt that I should quit my job and bring the children at home."
"From 6 months old to 2 years old, there will be a cycle of emotional attachment. At this stage, the baby may be a little anxious and needs the love of her parents. He often hugs her to meet her emotional needs. To help her relieve her anxiety, what was written in the parenting book may not be correct."
"Ah!" Zhu Zisao was taken aback.
"With all due respect, why must she insist on going to work instead of giving her more company? Her current situation should receive professional psychological counseling, because her individual situation is a bit special, and she is in a period of emotional demand. In an environment like kindergarten, realizing that she is different from others will make her anxiety worse. If this continues, the baby's personality will be affected when she grows up."
After rebirth, Xiaoqian deliberately added early childhood psychology in order to better take care of her children. She can also give professional advice on these.
Mentioned this, Zhu Zisao hid her face in tears.
"It’s not that I’m cruel, but I want to save money for surgery on my child! Her father doesn’t want to perform surgery on the child, saying that the child’s grandfather and uncle are both six-finger, and now they are doing well without surgery. Influence, I know, he just saw the child as a girl and didn’t want to invest in the child.”
As a mother, I can’t let go of the child.
Six fingers are different from other congenital diseases and will not affect self-care, but these people did not expect that their children might be looked at in a strange way when they grow up.
By the way, Xiaoqian remembered that the cousin who was very good at playing wooden furniture was indeed six fingers, and she looked curiously when she was a child.
Most of this curiosity may come from the strangeness of people who are different from yourself, and may not be malicious, but when most people see it in this way, the double vision will bring a devastating blow to those who are seen. Causes feelings of inferiority and depression.
"This kind of surgery is not expensive, it is best to do it on the child before elementary school." Xiaoqian supports the operation on the child.
"That’s what I think, so I told her dad that I’m at the mercy of my part-time job and earning money. I don’t care if I’m a child, I’ll always make a little bit less, but I’ll save a little bit or be enough. The operation was done before."
"If that's the case, why do you want to give him a second child?" This paragraph is not a psychotherapy, it is Xiaoqian who is understanding the situation.
"Because of work, we always quarrel. Sometimes I want to regain a stable relationship..."
"Fuzzy. Remember, never use childbirth to restore your feelings, because the contradiction has not been resolved. When you do not solve the original contradiction and contaminate the new one, it will become a bigger contradiction. I will assume for you. , If one day your marriage comes to an end and you only have one child, you can leave with your daughter and have another one. If it comes to an end, you will lose one if you bring one. What should you do then? If your second child is still a daughter, you What should I do? A daughter will have a miserable life without a mother."
Xiaoqian's words are cruel, but they hit the nail on the head.
The idea of having a son to retain the marriage was wrong from the beginning.
Regardless of whether the child is born or not, he has regarded himself as a tool for childbirth. What if he has a son?
The husband doesn’t care about the children, he just wears open pants for his son to bask the birds around to show the happiness of others.
Be your mother?
Pulling the two children hard, they have since become yellow-faced women. If a man lacks a sense of family responsibility and refuses to let the patriarchy under the thought of a straight man, he can only give birth to more premature women.
Don't talk about love at that time, the rest of the rest of your life is to work hard.
If the second child were a daughter, it would be even worse, waiting for her only endless rolling eyes and ridicule.
"Then what should I do, I am now desperate... I think I am a failed woman. The newborn baby crying in the middle of the night, I couldn't sleep all night, and I wanted to die with the baby at that time. Come on, there’s no hope for being alive, I’m so panicked every night... I’m getting better at work, but when I talk about having a second child, I am conflicted again. I want a second child for a while, and I feel that the second child is terrible. ."
It seems that there is still postpartum depression... Xiaoqian sighed in her heart, it is really a leak in the night.
Never use childbirth to solve your own relationship problems, and never think that as many children as you have, you can grab a man’s heart. There are a lot of facts that the more troubles you have. If you can't achieve complete love, don't live wantonly. ——By Niu Niu Mi.
(End of this chapter)