Return of the Antagonistic Lady Boss

Chapter 888

There are two kinds of situations for mothers who especially like newborn babies. One is that their families help to take care of their children and share the mother's burden, so that the mother can enjoy the happiness of parenting more quickly. The other is the subconscious "disguise" that they unconsciously show to others and themselves, but this disguise is not bad for the mother itself.

Most women will hypnotize themselves with "pretending" love. When people around them feel that it is natural for their mother to love their children, they will hypnotize themselves in this way, gradually accept their mother's identity and fall in love with their baby more quickly.

Also do not rule out some with pillar sister-in-law, life is not easy, too tired, hypnosis is not easy to use.

If it's not for self abuse, who will fall in love with children all of a sudden?

It seems that in response to Xiaoqian's statement, I don't know which neighbor's home, there is a hoarse baby cry. In the neighborhood with good sound insulation, it still has super penetrating power, which clearly spreads to Xiaoqian and Zhu Sao's ears.

"Look, it takes time for this crying baby to adapt to her existence. You must have worked very hard at the beginning, right?" Xiaoqian's seemingly casual words are deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.

"Yes, I'm so tired. Before I gave birth to my baby, it was 120 kg. In the year when I took care of my baby, I lost 20 kg of meat. Later, when she was a little older, I came back. For a while, what I wanted to do was to have a good sleep."

"I understand how you feel." Xiaoqian also thought of the previous life with Xiaowei that period of time.

At that time, she had no family and was very poor. With a small baby, she almost didn't suffer from postpartum depression. Later, when the child was a little older, she would call her mother sweetly, which was more and more intimate. Xiaoqian's love for her daughter was also more and more deep, so deep that she gave up the whole world for her.

The outside world will only use stereotyped thinking to restrain women, just like the idea of pillars. They think that women are born to like children, and if they don't like children, they will have problems. This kind of idea is easy to be depressed.

So a lot of mothers get postpartum depression.

The right way to deal with it is to share the mother's tiredness. The family plays a role of sharing. The mother feels the joy of being loved and loved. When she hears the baby call her mother for the first time, watches her toddler and grows up, the satisfaction will be more than everything, and the mother's love will gradually get better. But everyone's actual situation is different.

Sister Zhu's situation is not unusual at all. It's too common.

The most difficult thing is to understand. When she heard that someone understood herself, she was deeply moved. When she felt that she was not a good woman, someone could understand her and objectively analyze the problem. It was so healing and warm.

"Mei Wei, what should I do?"

"There are many problems in your family. I will sort them out for you a little bit. The first thing is to solve the negative impact of your lack of paternal love in childhood on your current mood. After solving this problem, you will have less estrangement from your baby. But more importantly, it is good for you and your child to ask your husband to participate in parenting."

"He's useless. He doesn't want to take care of children. He says he's a man. It's all women's work."

"I'm not in a hurry. I have a way to deal with it, but during this period of time, you'd better be careful about the plan of having a second child. It's up to you to be born or not. But I can tell you responsibly that in the current situation of your family, having a second child can only kill you and make your eldest daughter's problem more serious."

Still, having a baby can't tie a man's heart.

"But if I don't have a baby, he'll make a fuss about getting a divorce. What about my eldest daughter?"

"If you want to have a second daughter, he still wants a divorce. What about your eldest daughter and your second daughter? The problem has not been solved. If you give birth to a few children or don't solve the problem, it will only increase the worry. Now the first thing to solve is your emotional depression. I will help you adjust it so that you can fall in love with your children more quickly. Later, for the sake of your children, you will find that you have unlimited ability to destroy everything that you think blocks you, including your husband. " A woman is weak, but a mother is strong. The premise is that the mother should accept the role change.

After a simple emotional counseling, Xiaoqian began formal treatment. Sister Zhu was under too much pressure and had a tendency to depression. Coupled with the lack of childhood emotion, she was now in an unstable mood and went back and forth repeatedly.

Xiaoqian used "acceptance and commitment" therapy for her, and used a series of professional and technical means to let Zhu Sao eliminate her present psychological rigidity and treat her lack of paternal love as a child flexibly.

The process took more than an hour.

After the treatment, sister-in-law Zhu was obviously in a better mood. She found that she missed her daughter a little and wanted to call her daughter.

When Xiaoqiang came back, Zhu and his wife had already left. Xiaoqian looked at the moon by the window frame alone.

"It's over?" He put his arms around her waist from behind.

"Well, where did you take uncle Liao?"

"I went to play chess with dad."

"Who won?"

"Uncle Liao wins a lot - it's not easy to lose to Dad, ha ha ha!"

Think of their old man that green iron hate face, Xiaoqiang want to be happy.

"I'll tell you, after losing a few games, my father glared at me and played chess. That's like saying, how can you bring him here? Ha ha, I pretend I can't see him!"

Yu Fu's wish to be a chess expert seems to be a little difficult for the time being.

"I guess dad's feeling at that moment must be how I had such a bastard?" Xiaoqian imitates her father's voice vividly, Xiaoqiang laughs.

"There's no way to regret it. Who let him be a stinking basket and still like playing chess so much?"

The neighbor's cry that night, Lang Xiaowa began to cry at the top of her voice.

Xiaoqian listen to this cry, think of today's treatment theme, can't help but ask.

"You and Xiao Xi are twins. What do you do when you cry as children?"

Taking one child can kill people, not to mention two.

"It's said that when I was a child, I was very good at crying. In the middle of the night, I got up and howled and pulled up the roof of my house. Now I think it's calcium deficiency. At that time, the living conditions were just like that. Xiaoxi was the opposite of me. As soon as I cried, she would have milk to eat. When my mother fed her, she had to ask my father to take me to another room. Sometimes my father was not at home, It's the big brother or the second brother who holds me. "

So the eldest and the second are very precocious.

Xiaoqiang was also told by his mother that he liked his father very much when he was a child. Every time he cried, he had to be hugged by his father. When he had teeth, he bit his father's shoulder black and blue.

Even so, Yu's father never lost his temper and let him eat happily.