Return of the Antagonistic Lady Boss

Chapter 199

"Today's family has only one child, at most two, so this aspect is not obvious. In the early years, several children in a family were very common. There were two children in a family, one was very obedient and the other was very naughty. When they grew up, if they were obedient, it would be a big problem."

Yu's mother said, "Xiaoqian, what do you mean?"

"Obedient children have many psychological problems, which is a common phenomenon in psychology. The core of human nature has an" instinctive core ", which makes us eager to become an independent person and control ourselves. However, when a child is eager to be an obedient" good child "from an early age, his instincts are suppressed. When he should have independent thinking, he should have the ability to think independently, It's going to conflict with his wounded inner instincts. "

"Suppressed" in the mother shed tears.

She did not expect that her obedient second son had been suppressing himself.

Xiaoqian pretended not to see her tears and continued.

"You see such a person as Qingming, he was a naughty child from childhood, but his instinct core has been satisfied, he has a sense of reality, and he knows more about the meaning of life."

Therefore, Yu Guangming dares to choose the army he wants, and he dares to choose a woman like Xiaoqian. All this is because Yu Guangming knows what he wants.

"But the child in question is a very clever one."

"It has nothing to do with cleverness and stupidity. It's instinct. I boldly speculate, auntie, do you think that the child with problems has at least two or more children in his family? Does he have brothers and sisters in the middle or behind? "

"Yes, how do you know?"

"I'm learning something in this area recently. Professional courses can be involved. After having two children at home, some of the older children will become very obedient. Parents will happily say that the child is sensible. In fact, what do you want a child to know? It's all instinct

"Instinct?" Yu's mother recalls that when she gave birth to her third and fourth children, because they were twins, Yu Mingyi really helped her very hard. It seemed that she had grown up overnight and was a naughty child before. At that time, the eldest was living in school, and the second helped coax the two children as soon as they were out of school.

"When there is no new member in the family, he may be the child concerned by his parents, but suddenly there is a new member. His parents must take care of the baby more. He wants to win the attention of his parents, either mischievous or obedient to win praise."

After the opening of the second child, these situations are very common. Some parents will be very proud to say that my family's Dabao is obedient or something. In fact, they did not expect that a child who is a few years old is already using all his efforts to win the praise and attention of his parents.

Helping to coax the children will win the praise of parents. Look, my family is good and sensible.

In order to cater to their parents, some children will satisfy their elders with obedience. When they say they are stupid, loyal and filial, have you ever thought about who caused all this.

"I really don't know about this." Yu Mu turned around and wiped her tears.

She has always been proud that her second son is a good obedient child. She thinks that this child is the most reassuring, but she doesn't want to owe him so much.

"If you tell a child too much that you want to be a good and obedient child, you will put shackles on his" instinct core "at a very young age. Therefore, from our psychological point of view, these good children are more likely to have problems when they grow up than naughty children."

"Now, what should we do?"

"The best way is to pay more attention to communicating with the child when he is young, so that he can feel his parents' love for him. When he grows up, the effect of seeing a psychologist is always bad, especially - some people are too smart and have strong inhibition. They will reject psychotherapy. You are a doctor, you should know that if you have antibodies to antibiotics, getting sick is a terminal disease." Xiaoqian looks at Yu's mother's stimulated expression and feels that she seems to be cruel, but she can't do without saying it.

"Suppose your friend's child works in the army, especially in a special department. It's OK for him to receive regular psychological tests. If he has some discomfort, it's useless to see a psychologist. He can only let it go. In fact, there are a lot of such situations, but some people just don't hold important positions, which will not pose a threat. "

But the second elder brother can't. his position is too special. If there is a slight change in his mentality, there will be danger. Xiaoqian looks out the window at the people coming and going, because there are too many people whose parents interfere in marriage and work, but those people are not pilots and can live a lifetime.

Yu's mother never thought that her excellent second son would hate the blue sky and flying. It's very likely that she and her wife had no intention to influence her child when he was a child. This cognition is a huge blow to the mother who loves her child.

"How could that be?"

"In fact, from the perspective of parents, we can understand that parents are not gods, and there is no way to consider them in an all-round way. As long as they are not principled mental problems, they are nothing. Auntie, how can so many people in the world be perfect?"

In those days, it was amazing to make children grow up with enough food and clothing. Who had the time to think of these details?

Yu's mother wipes her tears and feels guilty to her child, but there is no way to relieve her. Is it really the best choice for her to let her child take off his military uniform and live the life he wants?

Xiaoqian is such a judgment, she felt that Yu Mingyi's military uniform must be taken off, at least not fly.

What Xiaoqian didn't expect is that Yu Mingyi, who she can't cure, can be cured.

Yu's mother and Xiaoqian return to Yu Mingyi's home from the cold drink shop. Neither of them mentions it. Yu Mingyi doesn't see that his mother's eyes are red. When he returns home with Xiaoqian and Leng, he suddenly finds that his folder on the tea table is gone.

He thought about it for a while and suddenly guessed that his mother might have taken it.

Yu Mingyi grabs the phone and wants to call his mother, but when he picks up the phone, he puts it down again with a calm expression.

The secret that has been hidden for such a long time can be known by the parents. It is estimated that the father will come to settle the accounts for himself soon. At that time, he will tear up the transfer report according to his father's will.

After all, this is expected, but I don't know how long to endure such an unhappy life

Yu's mother holds her child and goes home all the way. When she arrives at Q City, it's already dark. Yu's father is waiting for her to eat.

"Come back, eat quickly. Why is it so late today? What's wrong with your eyes, old lady?"

Yu's mother gives pan pan to her little aunt, takes out Mingyi's job transfer report from her pocket, and quietly hands it to him.

Major general Yu doesn't know why his wife is so serious. He just takes a look and slaps the paper on the table.

"Nonsense! This little bunny, it's gone with the wind! The cost of training a pilot in the army is higher than the cost of making an airplane. He even chose to be a deserter! Asshole! See if I don't deal with him! "

Major general Yu said he was going to go out, and his mother burst out crying. For a better reading experience.